Our son Stuart and Wendy fell in love. One week Stu came to San Francisco on business and Wendy came along also. I picked them up at the airport and we went to breakfast. While Stu was conducting business, wendy and I explored Union Square. I said, "Let me do the dad thing and take you on a shopping spree." I was surprised when she hesitated. I assured her my offer was genuine. Wendy had trouble getting into the mode until I asked a sales person to help. Then, hangers were being pulled off racks three at a time and taken into the dressing room. Wendy looked darling in some of the outfits, but I could tell she was still uncomfortable.
Wendy would be the first one to tell you she came from an unhealthy home. Later, Stu told me she had never been taken out shopping like that before. To make matters worse, her relationship with her dad had been horrible. So here I come in wanting to be the dad and take her on a shopping spree. No wonder my gift was hard for her to accept.
Stu and Wendy’s romance blossomed. They got engaged and moved back to our town. They struggled financially, and Stu asked to borrow some money. We gave him only enough to carry them over, because we wanted to see them make it on their own.
A few months after they had their jobs, their situation improved. They wanted to take us out to dinner. During dinner, Wendy gave us beautiful a card. In side was a check for some of the money they had borrowed and this note from Wendy, which I read aloud:
"Dear Mom & Dad,
Thank you so much for all of your love and support. We would never have made it without you. You've filled so many needs in my own life and I don't know what I would do without you.
Mom, your concern for my health and happiness has really touched me. You have filled an empty spot in my life. It's kind of nice to receive a little 'mommy concern.'
Dad, words cannot express my gratitude. You have filled a void that I never really thought could be filled. I never realized how important a daddy is to a girl. I've needed a daddy for a long time and you've filled so many of those needs. I don't know of any way to show my appreciation other than one thing. (Here is where Dad started to loose it.) Dad, I couldn't think of anyone else to give me away to your son at our wedding than you. (Every one of us was in tears then. And I am again as I'm typing this.) I'd be honored to have you by my side when I walk down the isle. Will you give me away at our wedding?
I don't need an answer now. If you'd like to think about it, I'd understand.
I love you both so much. I don't know what else to say but thank you.
Love, Wendy."
Thinking back, all we did was love Wendy like a daughter. Apparently, that is all she needed. Isn't that what we all need?
What ways could you touch those around you?
"A Timely word is like apples of gold in a setting of silver"
Make memories! Nothing else counts.
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